One of the biggest problems facing men today is the lack of risks they are taking in their lives.
The great spiritual Youtube star, Elliott Hulse, once said, “You can’t steal second base by keeping your foot on first base.”
From an evolution perspective, men’s brains are designed to take huge risks. We wouldn’t be breathing air today if our great male ancestors didn’t risk having their internal organs clawed through by the teeth of a wild animal just so he could provide food for his tribe to eat.
The massive problem in 2017 is that from the time we’re babies it’s ingrained in our minds to avoid risks at all costs.
“What if you get in an accident?” said my mom when I wanted to drive my beat up 1992 Ford Tempo in the snow when I was 16 to take a girl out on a date.
And actually, I jumped out of my 2nd story bedroom window that night and snuck into my ‘92 Tempo to pick-up my date. I ended up driving into a snow ditch when the tires spun on ice as I was trying to impress my date by speeding. No one was hurt, but he we had to wait almost 2 hours for AAA to come to help pull us out. It was a beautiful life experience that I will share with others until the day I die.
“You better go to college for something computer related or else you might never make good money,” said my grandparents to me at age 17 after I told them I wanted to pursue my passion for writing.
If I had gone to college for computers, I’d probably be a lot like my older brother who did do that. Today, he works at IBM, he’s the father of 3, looks 10 years older than he is, and is married to a “4” who doesn’t work (she also doesn’t cook, clean, or change the diapers – my brother does those things). And guess what – he’ll never speak up or leave her because he remembers what he was taught growing up.
How does this lead to gambling problems?
Maxwell Maltz, who wrote the amazing self-help book Psycho-Cybernetics wrote, “When we have faith and act with courage – that is exactly what we’re doing – gambling on, taking a chance on, our own creative God-given talents. It is also my theory that people who frustrate this natural instinct, by refusing to live creatively and act with courage, are the people develop “gambling fever” and become addicts of gambling tables.”
About 3% of American adults have a gambling problem. If you consider that 99% of those Americans are men, and about 50% of all adults are men, then about 6% of all American men have gambling problems.
The hardwiring in our brains doesn’t align with our social conditioning.
Two years ago I giving my life to a job that was suffocating me inside in tiny, grey cubicle. I was making about 65k annually, which of course, my mom thought was fantastic. Although my job required no physical work except for the occasional staple punch, my body was completely drained by 5PM each day. I was slowly dying inside that cubicle.
What did I turn to? I’d bet with my friends on which co-worker would show up to work first. I’d bet on a football game. I’d bet if it’d rain or not.
Finally, I decided it was more important to bet on myself. As my body nervously shook, I sat across from my manager inside his grey office and told him I was quitting.
Maltz wrote, “A step in the wrong direction is better than staying ‘on the spot’ all your life.”
Today, the only person or thing I work for, and bet on, is myself. If I have to pick bottles out of trash cans so I can eat, I will. I’ve never felt so alive.